Most of us learned these patterns early in life: keep the peace, avoid upsetting anyone, put your needs last. And nowhere do those old lessons come back more strongly than around family.

That’s why it’s hardest with the people closest to you. The moment you're back at the family table, you're feeling like a child again: over-explaining yourself, swallowing comments that sting, saying yes to things you promised yourself you'd say no to. And then walking away drained, resentful and disappointed in yourself, replaying every word on the way home and wondering why it happened again.

Your nervous system might be running on old default settings. But old settings can be updated.

With the right understanding and practice, you can create new rules for relationships and gatherings you actually enjoy, rather than simply endure.

What you'll learn

In this 90-minute workshop, we'll:

• Explore what healthy boundaries are and why they matter for your wellbeing and relationships.

• Understand why old family roles and learned patterns take over during gatherings.

• Discover why healthy boundaries begin within.

• Learn a practical five-step method for setting and maintaining boundaries.

• Practise science-based strategies to stay grounded during difficult moments and support yourself afterward.

You'll leave with your own boundary blueprint: situations you want to handle differently, what you're protecting, the words you'll use, what you'll do if your boundary is pushed and how you'll take care of yourself along the way.

A plan you can use at your next family gathering, and whenever an old setting tries to take over.